Sex toys: Introducing them and where to start

Sex toys: Introducing them and where to start

Sex toys: Introducing them and where to start

Sex toys can take your orgasm to new heights. But that’s not all. They can also help you learn a lot about what really works for you in the bedroom.

If you’ve never used sex toys before, it can feel a little intimidating. And, with so many toys out there, it can be hard to figure out what they all do, and what works for you.

But don’t worry, we’ve got you – here’s our guide to where to start.

Trying sex toys for the first time

If you haven’t used a sex toy yet, now is the time to give it a go. While trying something new in the bedroom can feel daunting, you’ll be pleased you took the plunge.

There’s no right way to choose your first sex toy. Everyone’s needs are different, and part of the fun of using sex toys is figuring out what works for you.

So, before you get started, you’ll need to familiarize yourself with the different types of toys available (see our guide below) and think about what you want from your sex toy. Do you want something that can be enjoyed solo or with your partner? And do you want a toy that works internally or externally?

How to use sex toys

Sex toys work in all different ways – that’s the beauty of them. Whatever you’re into and whatever you want to try, there’ll be something for you.

Whatever type of sex toy you’re using, particularly it’s going inside you, make sure you lube up! This will ensure the experience is comfortable, enjoyable, and as stimulating as possible – exactly as it should be!

And, if you’re planning on using sex toys with your partner, make sure you discuss it with them first to ensure you’re both comfortable and ready to give it a go.

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Sex toys for women

For women, and people with vulvas, there are loads of sex toys to choose from, including:


A dildo is a long, cylindrical sex toy. In other words, it looks like a penis. And, just like penises, dildos come in a huge range of different shapes and sizes.

Unlike vibrators, dildos don’t need charging, so they’re ready to go whenever you are. Just remember lube is your friend!

Not sure what size you need? If you’ve never used a dildo before, we’d suggest starting small and working your way up.


A vibrator is similar to a dildo only it takes things to the next level – it vibrates. Vibrators are great for solo sessions or play with your partner, delivering maximum stimulation and satisfaction, with minimal effort.

There are a number of different types of vibrators available, including:

  • Rabbit vibrators – ideal for a mind-blowing, all-round orgasm
  • Small vibrators – small in size but big on pleasure!
  • Large vibrators – for when size IS everything
  • G spot stimulators – targets the sensitive G spot

Jiggle balls and love eggs

Jiggle balls are small, egg-shaped balls that sit inside the vagina and can make a great addition to foreplay or solo stimulation. And they’re so discreet, you can even use them when you’re out and about…it’s one way to put a spring in your step!

Similar to jiggle balls, love eggs sit inside the vagina, but they vibrate for extra pleasure. They usually come with a remote control so your partner can take charge.

Clitoral suction stimulator

As the name suggests, this stimulates the clitoris by creating a unique sensation that is similar to oral sex. Simply place the toy near the head of your clitoris and let it do its thing.

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Sex toys for men

If you’ve got a penis (or shopping for someone with a penis), these are for you…

Cock rings

Cock rings are designed to help anyone with a penis achieve longer, harder erections. They work by preventing blood from flowing back down the penis.

Put the cock ring on while you’re flaccid and make sure you push it right down to the base of the penis. The harder you become, the tighter the ring should feel. But remember it should be a pleasurable experience and never uncomfortable.

If you’re using a cock ring for the first time, keep in mind they should always be used with lube – check out our range of water-based lubricants here.

Prostate massagers

Stimulate the prostate gland and you’ve pretty much hit the male G-spot. “But how do I stimulate the prostate?”, we hear you ask. With a prostate massager, of course! The massager slips up the bum and gets to work providing intense orgasms.


Fleshlights are essentially male masturbators. They squeeze, rotate, and pulse stimulating the penis from top to bottom.

Anal beads

Anal beads are suitable for everyone. And, because they’re available in different sizes, they’re perfect for beginners. To get the most out of your anal beads, slowly insert them, then pull them out. This will tease the super-sensitive nerve endings in the anus.

Sex toys for couples

Many of the sex toys that we’ve mentioned above can also be used by couples. But some are designed specifically with couples in mind.


Strap-ons can be lots of fun for both mixed and same-sex couples. Most strap-ons come with a strap-on harness, which sits on the hips to give the partner wearing it full control.

Bondage for beginners

Bondage kits can be lots of fun and a gentle way to ease yourselves into the world of sex toys. From fuzzy cuffs and eye masks to floggers and whips, there’s plenty to explore – and enjoy!

Vibrating cock rings

While the standard cock ring focuses all its attention on the penis, a vibrating cock ring lets the clitoris in on the action too. Sharing’s caring after all!

Remember, whatever type of sex toys you try, lube is essential if you want to get the most out of the experience! Explore our range of water-based lubes here and get in touch if you have any questions.